It’s time for my Weekend Meanderings with Elizabeth and Juliet and all our obsessions of the moment.
As someone said yesterday, ‘I am sick of living in unprecedented times’, and I could not agree more.
I couldn’t post without expressing my outrage on the the unbelievable striking down of Roe v. Wade yesterday. I felt sick about it and also so angry. We now have less rights than our mothers over our own bodies. My mother and grandmother would never believe this. We are one of four nations in the world banning a women’s right to choose – Afghanistan is another. That tells you who our peers are on human rights now.
What I think upsets me most is the people (so often infuriatingly men) bragging about how they’ve been working towards this for years. What exactly were they working toward? Pressing their religious beliefs on others? Making sure that every child conceived is born? Making women live with an unwanted pregnancy? It’s ludicrous. And it’s going to be deadly for women in so many ways.
This law will affect women of low income the most. We know that 60% of all women seeking abortions ALREADY have a child. This is a choice between women and their medical doctor. A friend’s very religious mom said to me why is there even a law? She believes this is between a woman and her doctor. Now in America now have a law telling woman what they can do with their bodies, but there is nothing about men’s bodies.
Why do we want more babies born into poverty, minimal education opportunities and dire family situations? It’s a recipe for more crime, poverty and more societal woes. If we are ‘pro-life’ we should care that every child that is born to have the best upbringing, food, shelter, love and education. In states where these mandates are happening, they have records of terrible support for women, families and social assistance.
Conservative church groups promising formula, diapers, and baby blankets aren’t going to fix that. And those same people, who so celebrate these births are NOWHERE to be found once these kids got to school hungry, in crap neighborhoods with broken families and later become teens on the streets. Pro-life means caring for all stages of life and clearly that is not happening after birth with these groups. The same pro life people are okay with assault rifles wreaking havoc in our children’s lives and letting any 18 year old have a weapon meant for war. You can’t have it both ways people. You can’t care only for the fetus, but that is exactly where their concern ends.
What we need is a nationwide walk-out, a strike of all women and men who want to say no this is not America and we won’t accept it. We need to register every warm body to vote in the next election too.
Today this is how much this law affects our nation via the New York Times...
We are officially in summer now and I am loving it. It’s been a bit warm, but the promise of summer gets me so happy, even if it’s just a late night trip to get ice cream or a day at our local beach. It’s not even the doing, but the thinking of maybe doing, that gets me happy. I am also enjoying people’s travel posts and seeing where in the world people are going. It’s a joy after two years of staying close to home.
Speaking of local travel, Max and I did a fun beach day last week, at Aptos. We left early before the traffic backs up on highway 17, and had a very long walk on the beach, called Sumner or to locals, Beer Can Beach, then hiked up the trail to Seascape Resort. I did this walk almost 5 mile that day), in flip flops, but I would recommend something with more support, especially for the path to the resort. You could make the walk longer or shorter depending on how far you continue down the beach.
We love this beach and it’s kind of a quiet one. You can walk both ways and going north you hit Rio Del Mar, another beach town with a few eating spots. We planned on grabbing lunch at Seascape, which is south of the stairs but they seemed to be understaffed. Instead, we walked across from the resort to the Seascape shopping center, a little enclave that is under the radar! We ended up at a very good Mexican spot called Palapas upstairs with ocean views and the nicest people.
Afterwards we checked out the cute shops and I am now officially a fan of Seascape Foods a small grocery/deli/bakery and general store. I was amazed at the just made gourmet sandwiches and noticed they have morning burritos, the freshly baked cinnamon rolls, house made bread, salads, juices and fresh local coffee. The store is owned by a couple and one does the baking. Very fresh produce is everywhere, along with staples and snacks and just cut lavender from a local farm and plants! My photos don’t do this place justice..
I went home with a beautiful throw and a basket to hang a plant. I had to hold myself back from buying more baskets. The owners obviously have a good eye and you can find gorgeous home items. I can’t wait to go back. It was like a beautiful bazaar!
There is also a darling women’s store in this center, where I bought a new hat, a pizza spot, wine shop, flower shop and lots more.
My hanging plant basket, new throw and hat…
This is excellent stop to grab a lunch to go at the deli ( or eat on the benches there) or have a Mexican lunch with a view. For parking, this beach is accessed through a neighborhood, but you must go early!
How to be Italian!
A wonderful little book, How to be Italian, came on my radar last week and I ordered it straightaway. I am just beginning this fun guide which is a perfect summer escape and reminds us how to slow down, savor life and enjoy the little things. There are lovely photographs and chapters on Italian thought, culture, fashion, food and dolce far niente: the sweetness of doing nothing. If we can’t get to Italy this summer, at least we can try and live like one!
With the weather so warm, I just want to live in dresses that are light and comfy. A friend wears a lot of Rails which is a California brand and has the California casual vibe. These are the kind of dresses I will grab over and over again and make it easy to look pretty on the hottest days. Just add some cute sandals, a straw bag and pull your hair in a bun and you’re good to go. Some of the Rails dresses:
I’m loving this Valentina Dress in white, this green floral Constantine Dress
Also super easy is the Tara Dress in blue stripe and the Ashlyn Dress and the Arielle Dress..
You can find more Rails dresses here and here. The run pretty true to size and I am a medium in these.
On my quick trip to Target this week, I spied some seagrass lanterns that are excellent quality and would be darling on a table or in the porch or yard. They come in two sizes, $20 and $25. I love when Target has something so affordable and looks nice too. I’m obsessed!
Target also has some of the new solar outdoor candles for these which is so easy. No more batteries!!
While at Target I also found a dress.. This sundress is so nicely made and our store had the only the floral Hawaiian print, but I loved it. The smocking on this dress makes it look expensive, is flattering and you could possibly get away wearing this without a bra. The smocking camouflages a lot. It also has pockets!
Just a few of the other prints it’s available in.. This is a nice quality dress!
Santa Cruz Beach House
This little beach cottage showed up on the listings this week, It’s the perfect size for a beach cottage and I love the shingle style and shabby chic look of the interior. This cottage has a view to the ocean along a river and it’s in a great area near Pleasure Point. It is so charming I had to share here. Now if it was only about a million or so less..
A hopeful video on NYTimes..
A lot has happened the past few weeks, but I haven’t stopped reading and doing more research on the gun violence epidemic. It’s heartening that we passed some legislation to help, though I wish assault weapons were banned, and it’s horrible the new Supreme Court ruling that people do not need a concealed weapon permit.
One heartening piece in this time of dismay was this video about how a CDC researcher who wanted to use gun statistics to end gun violence and and an NRA advocate in congress who crafted some of the laws restricting gun information, came to be dear friends. The man who crafted the laws, came to regret it and later was working for change and gun control. It shows we can come together and solve these issues when we listen to each other instead of retreating to sides. Both of these men really seemed like good people. If you can watch the video, I think its gives one hope, which we so need now.
Well that’s my meanderings for this week. Please stop by Elizabeth and Juliet’s blogs and see what’s on their radars this week..
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I am a new follower who enjoys your postings. I just want to comment that I appreciate you using your page to speak out publicly about the unconscionable SCOTUS ruling. Those of us who believe medical decisions should be between a woman and her doctor can no longer be silent. Thank you!
Sandy thank you. It’s just unbelievable to me this actually happened. Women’s lives are going to be in peril absolutely. I could not agree more. Even a friend’s mother who is very religious told me that this is a decision for a woman and her doctor and asked why is there even a law?
Kim Alexander says
Thank you for standing up for women. Guns have more rights than my daughters. Abortion is a personal decision.
Kim agree. Unbelievable isn’t it? I think this is what people need to realize this is a woman’s decison. This should not be mandated by others.
Can I still visit your blog Kim if my opinion differs from you ? Please tell me I am safe to visit your beautiful blog if I differ in opinion and that you will respect my opinions also . You have been a wonderful source of information and helped me with travel plans throughout the years . Your kindness and you have the heart of a servant, answering my many messages for which I am so grateful .
I urge you to read anything that Mother Teresa wrote about the issue . Even some of her speeches . The woman was cogent and meek. Changed my heart and I didn’t see it coming.
Thank you again for your blog . I am a huge fan.
Dear Jo thank you for your comment. Please understand this is something I felt I had to talk about as it’s a huge change for women in this nation. I appreciate your kindness and value your input, even though we have a difference of opinion. I was raised in a Catholic family and my mother was a fan of Mother Teresa. She has done so much good in the world. Jo I feel you have the right to believe as you wish. I just wish every woman could make that decision for herself, based on her circumstances and not have it pressed upon her.
If we could all just come together, maybe we could do better? Thank you Jo for taking the time to let me know your thoughts here and also listening to mine.
La Contessa says
I don’t think Mother Teresa ever had a penis in her!
Therefore no rape ,no cruelty no I WANT SEX NOW WOMAN!!
She did wonderful work with the poor and challenged but I don’t think she had any idea what she was saying if this is true!!
Let’s just say she had NO EXPERIENCE here to understand what makes a woman or child have an abortion!I would love to see those White Men in robes give birth and bring up a child!!!I do think they would think differently‼️
I never though of Mother Teresa in that way. You have a point..She did not live the reality of some women’s circumstances.
So true if men had to give birth, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. The way to get them accountable is to start another bill, where the minute of conception until college men pay and support the child, government mandated!
I follow your blog for your unique style and meanderings, not for political rants no matter the subject. We all need to use our moral compass when making decisions and not base them on one sided media nor to follow the crowd.
I wish you well but will no longer be a follower
Hi Mary, I appreciate you letting know your thoughts. I agree with we should use our own moral compass to make decisions and that is why a woman should decide for herself and with her doctors to have a child or not. You seem to be okay with it if the ‘crowd’ is the religious right pressing their moral compass on women though?
Thanking you for speaking up. We cannot be silent about the loss of our constitutional rights. Please keep up the good fight.
Lisa Martin says
I agree with you, Susan.
Thanks so much Susan. We have to speak up for those who aren most affected, the poor and those with few choices in this world, now even less.
Thank you for taking a stand and speaking out and NOT just following the crowd or listening to the one sided media that does not care about women’s rights or democracy. I totally agree with everything you said and you are courageous to be speaking out.
Rita, I appreciate it so much. I feel like we all have to say something, especially people with a platform. x
Thank you for speaking out about the Supreme Court’s recent decision to overturn Roe vs Wade. (no longer a court that represents the people of the USA. You see I was a Jane. I was a college student who found myself pregnant in 1970. I navigated a safe underground abortion. When I used my experience as the subject of a personal experience speech in a speech class jaws dropped. I was asked by the professor to give the same speech to other classes. Word got around and I was giving it to other colleges. Then came the girls to my dorm room. One by one. I do feel proud that I was able to give hope to many young women in a similar position. In the end we worked to establish four counseling centers that later became Planned Parenthood. By the way , the men/boys had no accountability. We must keep fighting and voting for our rights. More than that we need to keep helping our sisters. Donate. Vote. Protest. Write. Run for office. I’m proud of you for writing about this on your blog. It’s so great to see other women continue to carry the torch as I’m running out of years to do it. Don’t take our tights for granted.
Lisa Martin says
So awesome to hear about this, Leslie!
Leslie you are an amazing person. Thank you for what you have done and for sharing your story so others can know what it is to not have legal abortion. I know mother told me of friends who had suffered looking for options. She wouldn’t believe this has happened in our country..So many women died of illegal abortions for decades. Abortions will still happen, it’s just now less safe, more deadly, and then the fear of being prosecuted in some of these states is going to make it even more likely someone goes underground.
Thank you for the work you have done. Planned Parenthood has been a lifeline for poor women in so many ways for their healthcare. I believe this is another form of healthcare.
And I agree I see nowhere that men are being held accountable. How about the heartbeat law working toward that? The minute you get someone pregnant, your paycheck is affected for prenatal support and until the age of 18? How many would still be in favor of every baby being born then? Let’s get that law on the books…Conservatives let’s see that mandate?
Linda Salazar says
Exactly Kim! If women will be forced to have a baby then the father should be forced to pay child support.
La Contessa says
With ALL the Extras!!
Thank you for sharing your personal story, not only now but ESPECIALLY then. I can’t help but think you played a part in saving some young women’s lives.
Hi, Kim —
I too am a recent follower (from that cute Mary Ann), and I appreciate your willingness to speak up and take a stand on gun violence and this latest women’s health atrocity. I felt sick about it all yesterday. I have adult children, and I have had an abortion. I have a 34 year old daughter. What kind of world is this?! The court has never before revoked a civil right. And, of course, if men were the ones who got pregnant…
I am fortunate to live on the liberal left coast in Portland. Still, this is not something that we can ignore! Let’s all get involved and refuse to be silent. BTW, my husband and I joined a March for our Lives for gun control recently. It wasn’t very well organized but we wanted to add to the turnout. Most of the marchers had silver hair. Our voices and our votes count!
Can’t help but wonder what trajectory the country may’ve taken if Hillary had won…
Hi Julia and thanks so much for sharing your story. Can you imagine if you hadn’t had the choice? I am outraged and I think we need more of women to speak out, get enraged and speak out. This matters. No laws exist that govern men’s bodies, only women.
Good for you guys marching. My husband and I did the original march with them after the parkland shooting. I feel like we need to get all these groups better organized too. There was a march today and I didn’t know it, I feel like we need to merge these groups.
I think about Hillary all the time and what night have been. With women leading us, we do so much better for human rights too.
Annie Diamond says
Kim! It is unbelievable! I could not agree more!
I have never heard of Aptos! Another place on the west coast I want to visit now! That beach cottage is adorable, but the price tag, not so much!
Annie just too awful to believe this is our reality.
Don’t you love the cottage? Wish it was not so expensive! xx
I appreciate you speaking out about this outrageous SCOTUS decision. Women should make their own healthcare decisions in consultation with their healthcare providers not the whims of activist jurist.
Sherri thank you.. I absolutely agree.
Rhonda R says
Thank you Kim for speaking out for women and our right to choose. This is such an egregious error by the SCOTUS, we must speak out!
I’m worried about other decisions that are being targeted, gay rights, birth control and on and on.
I love your blog and you always say exactly how you feel and I appreciate your stance and bravery.
Hi Rhonda, I agree that other decisions are also in jeopardy and particularly scary is marriage equality! Thanks you for the kind words and note!
I agree with all your comments and applaud your speaking out. Choice is just that, you are able
to make your personal choice, based on your situation and beliefs. My choice is mine, not to be
dictated by those who don’t know me or my circumstances. There is a good Opinion by
Jennifer Rubin in yesterdays Washington Post. One powerful statement sums it up
“The hypocrisy and intellectual dishonesty of the court”s right-wing justices lead to the
conclusion that they have simply appointed themselves super-legislators free to
impose a view of the United States as a White, Christian and male-dominated
society despite the values, beliefs and choices of a majority of 330 million
modern Americans”. Pro Choice means just that, you can choose yours and I can chose
mine without dictation of one view .We must do what we can, as I fear for what’s next.
Its as if women have no voice or value to make their own choices.
BTW Jo spoke on her differences with respect as was your response to her. Why can’t we all
live that way? We all win then. Until then keep up the fight as I will do.
Char wow that suns it up really well. Thank you for sharing that. I will look for this. It’s infuriating how we are now living this reality of what others want to impose on us. I agree I appreciate Jo’s comment and I hope to have a fair discourse about this with all women. I respect their right not to have an abortion and I would hope they also respect that this has to be a choice for the individual about their own bodies.
So. We can’t control guns but we can control women’s bodies? I’m from Canada, have lived in the US for almost 40 years and simply don’t understand what’s happened to my adopted country.
On a MUCH lighter note, I have shibori wallpaper and lampshades that match your new throw. Love it! And thanks for sharing the Target woven lanterns. I’ll be heading to my store this weekend.
Barb, That’s the hardest part about this – the hypocrisy. How does the court justify assault weapons that take so many lives in this nation – and say they are a right, and yet prevent a women from abortion, if it could result in a fetal death? So one kind of death is all that matters- and those who are already here on the planet those deaths don’t matter? It confounds common sense.
I love that pattern on the throw! I bet the wallpaper and shade are lovely too. Hope you like the Target lanterns.
Thanks so much for your comment!
Clovelly 4 says
Thank you for your wise words. I spent much of yesterday in grief and tears; as a mother of two grown adults l had to have an abortion for financial reasons many years ago like so many women in the same predicament. I have been married for 35 years and it is still extremely painful for my husband and l looking back. But bottom line l did not want the third baby and neither did he. We were really struggling as actors with the joyful family we had.How dare the Supreme Court dictate their ruling that comes deep inside the workings of a marriage, a family, a person. I felt like l was a criminal yesterday and yet every step of the way we thought through the process and agonized over the decision. Who the hell are these judges who take away my intellectual freedom, my physical freedom, my rights….l was making the very best decision for us as a family and years later when l told my two adult children my own truth they were just as l imagined they would be:kind, sensitive, thoughtful and both of them said l made the right decision. Honestly l am disgusted at the Supreme Court decision. And as Governor Gavin Newson said yesterday “ they are coming after you…” gay marriage, gay rights it is all coming down the pipeline. So get angry, make your voices heard, we should not be living like this in a democracy. Thank you Kim for letting me talk.
Thank you for taking time to leave the story of your experience. It means so much that you shared it here. I cried when you said you felt like a criminal yesterday. This should not be. I know so many women who made the same decision and in a landmark study by UCSF, 95% of women said it was the right choice for them five years later. I’ve been reading so much about the history of abortion and for hundreds of years and in so many civilizations, abortion has been considered women’s healthcare. There is no stigma in Israel or Muslim countries either where the women’s life is much more valued than here.
It’s great your adult children support you in this. They sound wonderful. You are so right as Governor Newsom said, no rights are safe with this scary court. We must be less complacent than we have been. And for those women who aren’t affected by this, we need to speak for those that are!
Thank you this platform is for listening and I am learning from you all too. Take care and thank you so much.
Mary black says
We’ll said Kim. You’ve expressed “it” perfectly!
Thank you Mary
Kim—thank you for telling the truth and for refusing to be silent about this enormous breach of women’s’ rights and autonomy. I truly admire the way you use your blog as a space to speak about what truly matters. I too am heart broken and find it unbelievably hypocritical that people will stop a woman from exercising full control of her body yet insist that the right to bear automatic and semi automatic weapons is far greater than the right of small children to live and go to school safely.
It matters very little what furniture or fashion we embrace if our ability to choose is limited to stylish clothing.
Thank you so much for speaking out.
Deborah, Thanks it means a lot as many aren’t happy I bring it up here. How can I not? This is changing our world here in America. A freedom has been taken away, and I believe that has never happened before. How can the safety of small children not matter enough to even outlaw automatic weapons? Yet then they cry that babies are being murdered by abortion? Why is a fetal life more worthy than the grammar school child’s life?
You are spot on, if we lose fundamental rights to decide what to do with our bodies, than what else matters?? It all feels superficial.
I have taken the time to read the replies you have received from your post on abortion rights for women. I totally agree with everything you have shared with us and all your points have merit.
I would like to say we have a right wing court and it’s packed. We can thank “tfg” for that and the Republicans. Clarence Thomas is living in the dark ages. It’s a disturbing day that the Supreme Court would take away women’s rights to choose what’s best for their personal situation. This change has me deeply concerned about where our country is heading, and the gun laws.
On a much more uplifting note I enjoyed you sharing your Aptos summer beach date. The cottage is so charming, the asking price not so much. There is a buyer for everything.
Thank you for your post and your honesty, you are appreciated and respected. By the way on a side note I so enjoyed what Ruth Bader Ginsburg
had to say. I miss her so much. Such a brilliant women, and a voice of reason.
To me and many others, abortion is murder, and not a constitutional right. However, the second amendment is a constitutional right. I respect your right to disagree, but I really don’t think you respect mine. I’m going to unsubscribe, so maybe you will just have people with your point of view.
Bless your heart.
Linda, That is your opinion and you are free to not have an abortion. I would then also tell you that the second amendment is a not a right, but is also an interpretation. The court has perverted the meaning of the second amendment to benefit gun manufacturers and the results are mass shootings and hence murdering children in their classrooms.
I would ask you how do you feel about those murders? Do they matter as much to you? If we are to have discourse here, I’d like to hear how those who call abortion ‘murder’ when the fetus isn’t viable, ( 91% of all abortions happen in the first trimester), then abide the gun murders daily in the hundreds that we facilitate in this nation by our loose laws. Wouldn’t you want to do anything you could to stop the murder of school children? We could repeal the second amendment. We could ban assault weapons. Could you agree those lives matter even more? Those are people’s living children and families here on earth with us. Are you outraged by that too? Thanks for listening.
Vivian V. A says
All of these!! Yes Kim!!!
Thank you Vivian!
Well, Kim, here we go again after you use your platform for expressing your views! You handled this eloquently as you did when you wrote about the school shooting (which also caught flak).
There is nothing I can add to what you said about the Supreme Court decision. Chills literally ran through my body when I heard the verdict. It’s a sad time.
I once considered an abortion and spoke to my doctor about it. In the end, I made the choice not to terminate and I’m glad I did but I was also glad to have the option to chose.
Thanks for the rest of the lighter-hearted topics but the SCOTUS deal is top of mind.
Thanks for hanging in here Wren through all this..Wren wow. You have been there in the shoes of a women who has to decide. Can you imagine if you hadn’t had that option? I appreciate you sharing this.
I can’t believe this is going to be the reality for women here and some may even be prosecuted for just seeking one!
I agree hard to hardly think about anything else right now. xo
Kim I applaud you for speaking out about the overturning of women’s rights (actually banning abortions affects everyone) and addressing gun violence in the US. I couldn’t agree more with you. On a lighter note, Aptos is very charming: one of my cousins and good friends live there. I love your blog and your thoughtfulness.
You are right the banning of abortion will affect all of us.
Aptos is very charming isn’t it? Aww thank you so much Sally.
Kim, thank you thank you thank you. The decisions made in the last few days by this right wing extremist Supreme Court are too barbaric to ignore. We are going back to the dark ages for half of our country’s citizens. I adore your writing on fashion, decor, travel, recipes etc but I most admire you for taking a public stand. I saw a sign at one of the numerous protests “ women have heartbeats too”. Doesn’t that say it all. And to anyone against abortions – don’t have one. Pro choice people are not pushing their opinions on you. But the forced birthers and pre lifers want to strip away constitutional rights from the rest of us. In a civilized society where women’s rights are human rights this is not humane.
Christina, Thank you so much. Really appreciate this. Sometimes I wonder if if I am making a mistake sharing how I feel, but then I get letters like yours.
That heartbeat comment! We should have shirt with that. I so agree women’s rights are a human right. If someone does not agree with abortion they are free not have one, but deciding for others how they should choose is inhumane and not far from slavery.
Karen H. says
Kim, I applaud you again for standing your ground even though you may have lost viewers. Some of the commenters reflect that they are unable to agree to have differences of opinion and therefore would rather exit your blog. Sadly, I am less proud to say I’m an American these last few years. I have strong faith values, but I believe women should be able to make their own decisions with their physicians guidance in regards to their bodies. Don’t you find it interesting that SCOTUS and many on the far right would cry foul if they thought the government was taking away their rights?? Also, it appears it’s ok to murder innocent people and kids in schools and churches?? On a much lighter note, I love the info on Aptos. Your local travel blogs are so interesting. Thank you.
Hi Karen, Thank you. I am committed to speaking out about these issues of our times. If we can’t find common ground here, I don’t know where we are headed! I like you haven’t felt the same about our nation for a while. I agree the SCOTUS and the far right rage when any of their ‘rights’ like guns are altered in any way. Yet here they are doing much worse to women, and not giving a damn about the lives of children already here.
Thanks too about the travel.. I try to throw a few little day trips in here and there. Take care!
What’s unbelievable to me is that 70% of the population agree that women have the right to control their own bodies and decide for themselves if they want to bear children. I am dumbfounded as to how this decision can be taken away from us. We, the women of America, will fight for our freedom of choice. I’m 70 years old, do women still have to deal with this crap?
Christine I also find it maddening! They say the number may even be closer to 80%. So we need all of us to rise up and march, strike, and rage..as well as vote! I feel badly for women your age who have been here before. My mother would be livid if she were still here.
Linda Salazar says
Definitely need to visit Aptos next time we are up that way. I never heard of it until my friend’s daughter purchased her home there. But then I have never actually visited Santa Cruz, just passed through on the way home from Northern California.
Thanks for speaking out on this. I am in total agreement. Someone on NextDoor said a lot of these conservative individuals that are Pro-life are the same ones that were complaining about wearing a mask or refusing to wear one. So true. 🙁
Linda, It’s a great town and under the radar! Well if you haven’t been to Santa Cruz there is a lot to see still!
It seems a lot of the same people who were screaming about their right to not mask and go without a vaccine, and were screaming about their liberty, well some of them are the same people and do not have a problem with this choice being taken away from women!
Amen sister! Thanks for speaking up Kim! Here’s hoping the anti choice people will step up and adopt/ foster the many crack babies and at-risk children that we already have in this country. So many fall through the huge cracks in our already overworked social services…just this week a baby was found wandering here in the streets of Chicago wearing only a diaper at 4am…not the first time I’ve heard of this happening either, and don’t get me started on the gang shootings! Already so many children in less than desirable circumstances…
Susan, For a group that so fervently wants women to have all children, and say they will welcome them, yet they have not. Like you said, the foster system is loaded. Yet, they now still want every woman to give birth, no matter her circumstances, health or how the child will be raised? Having every child that is conceived, especially in tough circumstances, is a recipe for more social disaster.
La Contessa says
Seems Trumps daughter IVANKA had an abortion in High School!Head to Twitter to hear what her friends have to say🙄
Oh my. Well, I would not shame her. I just wonder has she been anti-choice for others? I think she and he are on the outs since she ratted him out for trying to overthrow democracy.
The question always not if Trump paid for abortions, but how many he did. The religious right knows his background and still decided he was their man. Now they have their dream court and can tell others (just not leader Trump), how to live their lives morally. Just wait. The pendulum will come back hard come election time.
Kim, you should be a writer for a national publication. You’re that good. I appreciate your thoughts on so many issues including the very disturbing SCOTUS decisions this week. It’s seems unbelievable, and sadly it’s not. As women – mom’s, daughters, sisters, aunts and friends – we have to stand together and push back hard against this rolling back of hard won rights. A strike is a very good idea. It would bring the world as we know it to a screeching halt. I love this video … there is hope and we must get back to a place of civilized dialogue. We are civilized people, right?! Oof. On a happier note, I love every detail of your beach day. Are those nachos? My very favorite food group. Your new throw and hat … adorable. I need a beach day. It’s so hot and all your dress choices are perfection. I see one I just added to my closet. I want them all. Dresses are so easy for summer and I’m not sure why I didn’t embrace them fully until now. I may have to give up a few dresses though to buy this beach cottage! Isn’t it perfect?! My dream existence takes place in this beach house. Maybe I can pick up shifts at Starbucks, I make a mean hot chocolate. Whatever it takes to live there. And on that note, I must go and show it to Jim. I know he’ll feel the same way and buy it for me immediately. Haha … joking. Obviously. xo
Juliet, I agree the more we band together the more we can make change. We need a huge movement here and being neutral is akin to apathy right now. A nationwide strike is something we can do.
The video had me crying. When we listen to both sides, we may have more in common than we think.
Yes they are nachos!! So good too. Good thing I walked five miles. I probably needed to double that..I love that beach house! xo
Wren Mead says
I agree with Juliet. Your writing, backed by facts and numbers, is worthy of national publication. Rather than going off on a rambling rant, you lay your opinions out clearly and thoughtfully. Good job and always a smart, insightful read.
P.s. I went straight to the Target website to buy the sea grass lantern (my local Target apparently doesn’t carry it). Wish you could get some kind of commission!
Have a great Sunday whatever your’e up to. 💝
Wren you are very kind.. I am trying ..
And don’t worry about the commission! I just hope you find the lantern. If you have to buy it here through my site, I will get a small bit, but buy it where it’s easiest. xo
Linda M. says
Kim, thank you for speaking up. I feel that those with any kind of platform must not ignore the latest social issues we are facing here in the US, and I truly appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Besides all of this, I love your taste in clothing and home decor! Thank you so much!
Hi Linda, Thank you so much. I agree it’s scary what is happening to women, and to our healthcare, and our privacy too. We all need to share our outrage and get busy getting everyone who cares about women’s lives elected.
So nice of you to say that. xx
Thank you Kim as always for sharing your heartfelt thoughts and your passion. I recently shared my story on your IG post regarding my long-ago life-threatening pregnancy and the consequences I (and my unborn baby) potentially faced. What I didn’t share is that, once it was determined that the fetus I carried was not viable, I underwent a procedure identical to that which occurs in an abortion, a procedure that many physicians will now be reluctant to perform for fear of prosecution. As if my heartbreak were not sufficient, I would have been forced to wait for a painful “spontaneous” abortion, the medical term for a miscarriage. It’s unconscionable that many women will now face that same situation out of the ignorance and intrusiveness of others who profess their piety.
Sarah, I was so moved by your story and really appreciated you sharing what must have been so painful. I was hearing the particulars of these bans, by state and the cruel, and inhumane particulars. Making a woman suffer as you described is horrendous… And threatening doctors from procedures for the health of the women physically and mentally is third world stuff.. It’s another form of abuse that is being heaped on women in a terrible situation. Those moralizing need to live a day in a women’s shoes faced with these choices. Once again this is human rights territory..
Thank you again Sarah for your voice and sending you hugs.
I love to read your posts on Saturday, then come back on Sunday and read them again. Your passion, conviction and kindness when expressing an issue and then having a discussion with someone of opposing views is what is needed in times like these. I too am Catholic, but that doesn’t mean I don’t think women should have the right and ability to birth control, medical help and the right to choose what is right for them. Roe vs Wade has always been a black and white issue for many but many of the loudest voices(men) never have to deal with these issues. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and coming to the table with not only your knowledge but your heart. A welcome change from all of the screaming.
I have said this about gun control and I will say it about this, WOMEN need to vote not just stand around and talk about the issues.
I read an article yesterday, the title of which was To be pro-choice you must have choices.” so very true.
I love your dress, and baskets and your staycation with Max! You always find so many great things.
Have a wonderful weekend xox
Karen H. says
Well said, Elizabeth! Women need to step up to the plate and VOTE these people out of office. Women do have power, and they don’t need to be standing by ignoring the fact that their rights are being taken away. I just have to think that in many red states, they never thought their rights would be taken away. 🤷🏻♀️
Karen, women could have so much power and yet…we don’t because we don’t ban together, we don’t vote, and so many other things.
I am not sure what happens but the fact is that there are many women that talk about lifting women up and encouraging them, and then the ugly green monster of jealousy or insecurity rears up and many women show a side of themselves that is not very nice. I am reminded by several women that mentioned that Katie Couric was not very nice to them and her response was that she was protecting her job. The POWER OF ONE person looking out for themselves, their job, their life is POO.
If we do not think this issue is worth stepping up and taking action for I do not know what it. Whats next? We can’t vote? We can’t have our own bank accounts? When they start taking away one right at a time there is nothing stopping them from taking another, and another and another.
Gosh Elizabeth so spot on.. This whole rights thing is a slippery slope. I don’t know what is next and the world has been too shook the past few years, we can’t expect to hold onto what we have!
Hi Elizabeth, Thank you.. I really am trying to hear how o†hers feel. I am so with you, without action we are nothing. We need votes. I agree with the article we must have choices. too
You know how much I love your decor, clothes choices and recommendations Kim … but most of all I admire and respect you for also writing so eloquently and honestly about topics such as this. You not only write from your heart but also with such clarity and reply so respectfully and truthfully to those who have a different opinion…
I also appreciate the depth of your research and the links you provide.
I can’t thank you enough for speaking out and encouraging not only dialogue but peaceful action.
I was away with my adult daughter at the end of last week and we were discussing the possibility of this occurring … honestly, at that time she particularly couldn’t comprehend that it would… Then we woke up the next morning and I read the news 😢 😢
It’s so scary to contemplate how this erosion of basic human rights may progress …
Rosemary, so appreciate this note from you! I have gotten so many messages from women across the pond and farther out concerned for us and our country! It’s truly hard to believe it has actually happened.
It’s been good to have other nations to look to, who have better human rights and common sense and the U.K. is always good on that. As you mention, there is no reason to believe this will be the end of our infringement on rights. One justice already mentioned birth control and marriage equality, which Roe held up, so to speak. It’s a frightening time. It’s so good to know those who love America see how far we have gone backwards and are marching for us and expressing their outrage too. It means a lot. Women together are strong! xoxo