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Inspiring Home Books, a Pretty Spring Top, and a Rattan Lamp I’m Loving..

February 24, 2023 By kimwheeler 30 Comments

On this post..home books that are inspiring me, a pretty spring blouse, a rattan lamp, a foundation you will love..and better options for your purged clothes.

Well this sure won’t be a winter we will forget here in California. We have snow! Our nearby surrounding hills are covered and our highway to the coast, just a few miles from my home, was shut down due to snow- a lot of it. I’ve lived here my entire life and we only had snow once in 1976. (I was in fifth grade and it melted by morning recess!)

I’ve been grateful for my long puffer coat, and my Ugg sneakers…my Tahoe clothes. I could only describe the wind as Chicago level cold! The cat and I have been holed up here by the fire and I’ve had her cat heating pad on non stop.

Cat by fireplace. Town & Country gas fireplace

My pic of the hills I took.. and Caltrans pics on our Highway 17! I just had to share..

San Jose Mountains topped with snow Feb 2023
California's Highway 17 covered by snow 2023
Highway 17 covered by snow 2023

On my radar this week..

Urban Decay hydromaniac foundation
daffodils in a white Pottery barn vase
Liz Lange's Hampton Remodel
PB Marion rattan lamp
Mille stripe blouse

I’m forever searching for the perfect foundation and Urban Decay’s Hydromania Tinted Hydrator exceeds expectations. . I would venture to say like this better than my La Mer fancy foundation- it’s THAT good for $30. I bought light neutral and my skin has never looked better. It’s also a clean brand and vegan.

Trader Joe’s daffodils are bringing me joy at $1.99 a bunch, especially with these dark days!

If you love houses, Joni of Cote de Texas did a deep dive on Liz Lange’s renovation of her famous Grey Gardens house in the Hamptons. This is post is cram jammed in Joni style with history, architecture, two designer’s vision of the house – Mark D. Sikes and Jonathan Adler, and no detail left behind.. Read it here.

I’ve been a fan of blue stripe blouses forever and when this Mille blouse popped up on my feed, with its pretty sleeves and neckline, this will be a top to love for many seasons.

Can we talk about this Marion Rattan Lamp?! I love this… for a kitchen counter, side table or maybe darling in a bedroom.

New design books that are inspiring!

I need spring home inspo and magazines aren’t cutting it. Magazines are getting rarer and rarer sadly. Some great books at my local Books Inc. that I could actually browse through..so I bought a few new ones :

Home Therapy

A different approach to home, Anita was a therapist who recognized a lot of her clients issues stemmed from how they were living at home. I like the unique approach and also the inspiring spaces. There are ways to bring more light, better sleep and even air to your home. Just a lot of fresh ideas here I’ve not seen before in a design book, this is chock full of good ideas and pretty spaces too.

Home Therapy Book by Anita Yokota

House Beautiful Live Colorfully

Live Colorfully is a visual treat and is packed with so much inspiration. For those who want to add more color to the home, how to mix it with neutrals and also paint color suggestions for every tone.

House Beautiful Love Colorfully book

Remodelista The Low Impact Home

A gem and guidebook for living mindfully and in style. Besides homes and family stories, this book has cool design ideas using unique things. I especially like the recommendations in the back for mattresses, sheets, rugs, home goods, paints and everything you can ever need for living a healthier life, and considering the planet while you are at it.

Remodelista The Low Impact Home book

Julia Morgan- An Intimate Biography of the Trailblazing Architect

I love California and am always trying to learn more about homes and history. This wonderful book on Julia Morgan has been on my radar. As one reviewer said:’ “A closer look at the woman who helped build the American West. . . . as the patron architect of California.” 

Besides showcasing her work, this book tells of her growing up in California, attending Berkeley, and her time studying in Paris. You also read of her family, her kindness to her employees and so much more we never knew. Julia Morgan is an oft forgotten genius who influenced so many and was the first female American architect.

Julia Morgan: An intimate Biography of the Trailblazing Architect book

Closet Stories – what are you purging/ keeping?

If you’re still following along my closet journey…This week I had a bit of a lightbulb moment when going through the bags I was purging.

California Closets light grey closet organizer in home.

I noticed almost all of the clothes were marked down items I had bought on sale, on impulse and thrown into the cart on a shopping trip because they looked cute and were inexpensive.

The things I have kept are things that I mostly have paid full price for. The point being I guess, is I bought the things I wear the most, with intention. Sometimes, I have bought something that was a stand-in for the item I really wanted, at a lower cost. Those never become my beloved pieces! I know we all do this.

Anyway, a little something to consider when you are purging and creating your perfect capsule wardrobe.. Look at those bags, were they impulse buys or sale things? Were they the item you dreamed of owning ?

Look at what you have kept? Are they things you adore and still do? That is how you should build the closet with less, slowly and with your ‘dream’ items of pretty things.

The truth about Goodwill donations…

Let’s talk about where those clothes are going now that you might have purged. I shared last week that I took some of my things that weren’t super pricey to a local consignment chain, Crossroads Trading. They gave me cash and half of the items I still have.

The fastest way to deal with purged closet and home items is Goodwill or Salvation Army trucks or drop-off, but you might be surprised to know that places like Goodwill keep the clothes on the sales floor for just 4 weeks. Great piece about it all here. ..More reasons not to buy that $10 t-shirt.

Greener Options…

For some of your items consider your local charity places like American Cancer Charity Shops or local charity shops in your community. Locally places like Happy Dragon(benefiting the EMQ charity), Dress for Success, One Warm Coat ( so needed this year), Front Line Communities, Sacred Heart Charity, will use your clothes to lift up people in struggling life and economic situations. I love all these charities and if you have others please share!

Other options are give to friends who would appreciate them. I also have the kindest ladies who help clean my house monthly and they often want my bags of things which makes me happy someone will enjoy them.

If you have pricier things you just don’t want to easily give away..

–Have a party with your friends. My friend blogger Suzanne Bell does this every year with her girlfriends and they all bring their nicest items and swap and make an evening of it.

–Have a neighborhood or friends yard/ tag sale and see what you can get. Usually the price you get for these things aren’t the best, but you often make connections with people coming to these sales and I have felt great about selling things at a lower cost that I know are going to a person who will love them.

Selling to an online consignment store.

The Real Real is one of the simplest and they will give you a point person who verifies what you have, send you a label and can even schedule a pickup. If you have a lot of things, they can even send someone out. They are picky and will only accept certain things. They also aren’t rated the highest as far as payout percentage, but they do do a lot of the work for you.

Vestiaire Collective pays a better rate, but you’ll need to measure and document and photograph what you have, so a bit more time and investment.

Poshmark is another option, as is Ebay and even Etsy. ThredUp, is another and will send you a bag to fill, but they won’t pay you much.

What if we did a blog tag sale ?

jeans stacked in a closet

Our friend Elizabeth, aka Contessa suggested a blog tag sale. As Juliet has some nicer things also, so we were wondering what if we did something like this quarterly? We could share the item, say a price and take offers for some select nicer things… Would that be a good idea? I’m just throwing it out there to see. . I like the idea of making a connection with people who read the blogs as Elizabeth mentioned. Let us know your thoughts!

If you missed last weekend’s post I shared the John Singer Sargent in Spain show at The Legion of Honor, more San Francisco Stairs to discover, early spring outfits and more.

Wishing you a great weekend and I hope you all stay cozy!

Kim

Please visit my pals Elizabeth and Juliet’s blogs..

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Daffodils in a Pottery Barn white vase

Filed Under: Books, closet organization, home decor Tagged With: #springstyle

Books to Gift This Season

December 12, 2017 By kimwheeler 8 Comments

How is your December shaping up? The past week was taken up with my Griffin turning 16 and getting his driver’s license, which I can hardly believe, and Jackson coming home from college. A lot of fun, but naturally I’m behind on posting and shopping. I’m trying hard not to over-buy this year, avoid the mall, shop small in town, and bought online when I could. I have more shopping ideas coming soon, and today is about my favorite thing to get and give- books!

With few ACTUAL bookstores left, it is sometimes hard to browse, so I love hearing book recommendations. I made some here and would love if you would also share any you found this year or have gifted before that are winners. You’ll notice there are few novels as I find those a very personal choice, and harder to buy for gifts. Let me know what you think. In the meantime I’m working on cards, cookies and shopping still..

From Napa With Love is a fun guide and read that takes one to the less traveled and cooler spots in Napa. I really enjoyed seeing how Napa folks and summer residents like Kate and Andy Spade, live and what they like to do while there. Great for anyone planning a trip or who loves this part of California.

What Unites Us is what we need to hear with so much divisiveness. Dan Rather makes the case that, ‘Patriotism is rooted in humility and nationalism is rooted in arrogance.’  Dan is someone I greatly admire for speaking his mind and being a voice of reason during this tumultuous time in America.

One of my favorite new books is How They Decorated. A great look back a tastemakers of the past decades and how they designed their homes and lives. I appreciate this book in an era of Pinterest and the homogenization of home design. If you’re over the barn doors, shiplap and all that this book is for you.

If you like reading about how creative people live at home, The Authentics   is a gem. Beautiful photos and interviews.

Remodelista The Organized Home is perfect for those who are into simplifying and committed to living better with less. Great ideas on how to eliminate plastic from your home, store less stuff and use what you have to live simply and beautifully.

Gardenista is a wonderful tour of some of the most inspirational and beautiful gardens and yards and how they were created. I’m using this as my guide in redoing my yard next year. It makes a beautiful book for the coffee table as well for the garden lover.

If your ready to up your cookie game check out Holiday Cookies, a beautiful book with excellent recipes, tips and some pretty ideas for packaging and decorating.

I love this new Betty Crocker Lost Recipes book. Not only are the recipes vintage, but the tips are culled from all the best books of the past. These little nuggets of wisdom give charm to this adorable book. Really fun to look back by decade and see what was popular and the mindset of those times!

Do you have a creative friend or someone who sews or wants to learn? Want to stop buying what everyone else does and live a little greener? I appreciate everything about Everyday Style and it’s chic ideas for making your own unique capsule wardrobe and totes.

In a slump? Got a friend going through some life changes? You are a Badass is seriously motivating. This book gets you off your butt and out of your own way to make the life you want happen. Just picking it up and re-reading a chapter now and then changes the way you think.

Got an 8-13 year old?  I really like the positive messages about being different and powerful in Strong is the New Pretty .

Any science nerd teens or adults? My 19 year old highly recommends What If? which was written by the creator of the highly popular xkcd.com science comic website.

 

Atlas Obscura is another cool book for curious teens or adults who are interested in the world and travel. Great photos and stories of amazing marvels to get to one day. I plan on getting this for my geography loving kid this year.

 

I bought The Genius of Birds last year for my bird loving husband. In the year past I have heard so much about this book and the crazy intelligence of birds, I plan to read it over holiday break.

Hero of the Empire is a bio that reads like a thriller and details the heroism of young Winston Churchill in South Africa during the Boer War years. I love anything on Churchill and history buffs will appreciate this war that is relatively unknown to many Americans.

 

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Filed Under: Books, Christmas Gift Ideas, Uncategorized Tagged With: Best books to gift this season, Books I love, Christmas Gift Ideas, Holiday Gifts

Friday Book Chat- Audrey at Home

February 6, 2016 By kimwheeler 16 Comments

I love everything about this week’s book, Audrey at Home. I’ve had this book for a while and have been savoring it.

Audrey Hepburn was my mother’s favorite so from an early age I was very familiar with everything Audrey. Long before there were VCRs and cable television, mom and I would spend Saturdays on the couch watching afternoon specials of her movies. By time I was ten Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Roman Holiday, Sabrina and Wait Until Dark (mom claimed it was her best role), were my favorite films. My mom even looked like Audrey and had the same hair styles and big glasses. That may have been on purpose now I think. My mom also loved Audrey’s elegance and unique style. This book really had me thinking so much of my lovely mom who will be gone a year next week. I only wish I could have gotten her this book. I know how much she would have loved it.

After Audrey had her boys she rarely did movies, but I did have a chance encounter with her when I was in college…

One day, in the late 1980s, I found myself in Beverly Hills on a road trip with a boyfriend and decided to get a manicure at the Elizabeth Arden salon for fun. It was $16- pretty steep for me then, but I splurged. The salon was buzzing with chatter and ladies under dryers and such. While I waited for my polish to dry I heard a very familiar voice out of the corner of the room. It was so familiar in fact, I thought it must be the television. I turned to see it was an elegant lady, also getting her nails done and yes it was Audrey Hepburn. My heart started racing and I thought I was going to faint.

She was talking about an upcoming movie she was doing and they were showing her clothes or nightgowns and she’d say. ‘Oh maybe years ago darling not anymore,’ about some of the selections. (I think the movie was with Robert Wagner called Love Among Thieves, one of her last.) She was pretty and tiny and funny -just as she was in the movies. I could hardly breathe. I wanted to run up and tell her how much I loved her and how my mom did especially. In the end, she was moved to another room to finish up and I never did. She did flash a smile my way before she went. I flew out of there and straight to a payphone to call my mom. She was unbelieving at first and then mad it was me not her to see our Audrey. Today, I still cannot believe it happened. The best $16 I ever spent.

This book is a joy.  I just loved it. I just soaked it in. I have many Audrey books, but this is a glimpse into her real life as a mom and wife.  Her son Luca Dotti has done a great job conveying what a special spirit his mother was. The personal photos and anecdotes that go along with the 50 recipes make this so much more than a cookbook.

Audrey’s greatest joys were home, family, her pets and her garden. As a child of World War II who nearly starved in Nazi occupied Holland, she never took anything for granted. She reveled in creating a home for her sons and being with her close lifelong friends.

The recipes are uncomplicated and the kind of comfort food one masters and adds to a repertoire of a life’s favorite dishes. Vichyssoise, soups, pesto pasta, sea bass in paper, and chocolate cake are just a few of the simple and delicious from her collection. Audrey’s favorite though was Penne with Ketchup, which is better than it sounds, followed by a dish of vanilla ice cream. She loved staying in and eating pasta curled up on the couch with television, her family and dear dogs. Makes me want to do more of that in my life!

Some of the personal photos from this book…

The cover of the book is wrapped with a painting Audrey did of her garden in Switzerland. This is a beautiful book for your kitchen and already I am loving the soups, dressing and pastas that are so easy and fresh. This book is a guide to the sweet life you can create by surrounding yourself with the uncomplicated joys of good food, friends, family and pets. What more does one need?

Charm, kindness and gratitude are what made Audrey one of a kind and I enjoyed reading how she carried that with her throughout life.

We could all use a little more Audrey style, no?

Luca Dotti has written another more photographic centered book called Audrey in Rome about his mother’s time in the eternal city and her other son Sean Ferrer has also written a sweet book called Audrey Hepburn, an Elegant Spirit, which is also beautifully done. She must have been a wonderful mama to those boys for both to have written books about her.

Happy weekend friends!

Filed Under: Audrey at Home book, Audrey Hepburn, Books, cooking, simple joys

Friday Book Chat- Eating on the Wild Side

January 29, 2016 By kimwheeler 21 Comments

Happy Friday! I’ve decided to try to use Fridays as a day to talk about some of the best new books. There are so many I want to share so we will see if this can be a little forum for some of the better offerings and have recommendations from you readers too.

I’ve had this book on my nightstand for a while and been meaning to write about how fantastic it is. I don’t know about you, but eating better is always one of my goals in a new year and reading this book motivated me to make better choices for the family and in what I personally put in my body as well.

Think you’re eating well because your diet is filled with vegetables? Well think again! Did you know that the preparation and varietal makes a huge difference in the nutrition? I had no idea that some vegetables are lacking almost all their benefits by time they get to the supermarket shelf!

Eating on the Wild Side is an eye-opener and author Jo Robinson has done a great job with her in-depth research and history. You will learn so much about getting the maximum antioxidants and cancer-fighting advantages out of your veg and fruits.


 Some of the tips I loved..Letting your garlic rest after chopping for just 10 minutes before cooking retains all it’s cancer-fighting benefits, but if you don’t wait you lose all of them in cooking. Carrots should be bought fresh and with their tops on. The very popular baby carrots can be months old and carrots are one of those vegetables that do not retain nutrients when frozen, and you can get eight times more beta-carotene by cooking a carrot than eating it fresh.

Like our grandmothers said, the skin is often the most nutritious part of vegetables and fruit and why one needs to buy organic. Those pesticides do not rinse off. Buying local is not just good for the earth, but by buying from farmer’s markets your fruits and vegetables will likely be picked the day before as opposed to stores who often sell things kept in refrigeration for weeks. The problem is many vegetables like broccoli lose almost all it’s nutrition waiting on the store shelf.

After reading this you’ll know the best way to retain nutrients, antioxidants and keep your produce fresh.  There’s a shopping guide at the end of each chapter that tells you what varietals to grow and buy that have the most health benefits. The history of some of these plants is fascinating too..How they became cultivated and chosen over others makes it an interesting read.

When buying you want to looks for fruits and vegetables that have more exposure to the sun and hence more antioxidants. So choosing a baby lettuce over a romaine whose leaves are enclosed is much more desirable.  Darker tends to be better for you, but in some cases like peaches and nectarines, the white ones, less propagated have much more nutrition. Chose less cultivated and more wild varietals when possible, from local sources or your own garden for your health. To top it off, there are also some yummy recipes dotted throughout this book I really liked.

Has anyone else read this? I think it’s the best food book since The Omnivore’s Dilemma which was eye-opening as well. Any other similar books you love? I find they really motivate me to commit to better eating.

Have a healthy weekend. Getting to the farmer’s market is on my list!
Kim

Photos Northerncalstyle 

Filed Under: Books, Choosing the most nutritious veg and fruit, Eating on the Wild Side, Nutrition

Home Glamour -The Elements of Style Book

September 1, 2015 By kimwheeler 14 Comments

Now that the kids are back in school I finally have some bigger chunks of time to actually work on things I’ve been meaning to get to. One of them is the house. Seems I always have plans to paint, update and purge things we really don’t need anymore. In short, a lot to do! One thing that never fails to gets me inspired is home books and my latest favorite is this beauty…

Elements of Style- Designing A Home & A Life, by Erin Gates is filled with pretty photos and ideas that will get you motivated to brighten and modernize. I don’t know about you, but now that I am finally have a chance to step back and look at the house, I realize there is so much we don’t need and a lot of pieces we have just taken on from family, and also dragged with us from other homes. Some things that worked great in our other home never really worked here, but we kept anyway. I added a few new things when we moved here 5 years ago, then we went through our start-up years and we didn’t do much else after that. Now that we once again are to add some home upgrades, I want to  focus on getting our home the way I really would like it. Up to it’s potential is how I like to think of it…

Erin’s book, like her amazing blog, which you have to visit, is like a breath of fresh decorating air. She has great practical ideas, but a modern sensibility which I really like. Throughout the chapters  Erin weaves little bits of her life story which makes her so likable and relatable. She comes off as a someone who wants to share her knowledge, but also someone you’d love to have a glass of wine with! So far, thanks to Erin and her book, I’ve added two new pieces to the home…

This wool HomeGoods rug which is modern looking with it’s geometric pattern. It makes the family room look a tiny bit hipper with our white couches, leather accents, oversized denim pillows and grey accents.

Please ignore the cat. They tend to crush the tops of the couches into their personal dugouts!
The other purchase, very radical for me, was this acrylic table!

I have to say I am in total love with this piece right now! I knew I wanted it as soon as I saw it.  I wasn’t sure if I was going to use it as a bar, a vanity table or a desk, but I placed it in the entry while moving it in and it just fit there! It makes the entry look chic, especially with the addition of the gold frames, which I am still filling and the bit of driftwood. Acrylic (or lucite -same thing) makes rooms feel larger and more open as it takes up no visual space. It’s also bright, light reflecting and feels glamorous. I need more glamour in this house!

The drawback to adding these modern pieces, is that everything else may look a bit staid. I’m not advocating for everything new. That’s not me, I appreciate things with provenance and I don’t believe you need to change your your whole home, but you need to edit and refresh occasionally. Adding something like my table may be the impetus you need to do this. Your home can become bland if you are keeping tired accessories and photos in the same frames they have been in for 10 years. Save what you adore, but mix it up, add some color, move the furniture, and perhaps get rid of a few things!
Also on my home to do this for fall is add some turquoise and teal to my living room. I have always loved that color and I am inspired by my grandma who has been a lifelong lover of it. She had a home designed around it in the 1950s and a wardrobe filled with it. Cleaning out her home, as we have been doing over the past months, I am encouraged to be more bold with colors! I think gold accessories add that bit of glam and I am changing a few of my frames out to gold and adding a vintage gold cat to the mix from my grandmother’s mid-century home. The gold is a nice foil to the deep aqua blues and the acrylic.
 I hope to get rid of some couches, chairs and old tables I’ve been hanging onto. It feels like we have too much furniture and I want a more open feel in my rooms. I might just go without for a bit and see how the space feels. Whatever gets added I want to love. Wallpaper is another energizing and refreshing look Erin Gates uses a lot and I plan to take the plunge and wallpaper my entry and possibly my small dining area. Why not? I’m hitting 50 this month and feel like if I don’t have fun and do these things now I never will, you know?
Do you change your home up often or do you tend to live with things the same for a long time? You might try experimenting. Check out Erin’s terrific book and her Elements of Style blog for daily inspiration! She’s a funny writer as well as a talented designer. Adore her. Here’s a few of my favorite images from her book below…

Right now Erin is also curating a sale at the home decor site Joss & Main. Her sale goes on until September 6th. You can see more rooms she has done and some super little pieces she has picked for the sale there.
Kim
P.S. If you are interested in finding a lucite or acrylic table like mine, I found this one on CB2. The size is closest to mine and the price isn’t bad. They can run upwards to the $900s so you have to shop around. I was lucky to get mine at HomeGoods, but haven’t seen them since. Look for something thick and sturdy. It should weigh a bit too.

photos Elements of Style book and my own.

Filed Under: Books, Design blogs, Elements of Style- Erin Gates, home decor, Modernizing the home

How To Raise An Adult: The Parenting Book We All Need

August 13, 2015 By kimwheeler No Comments

I just finished this book and I found a few weeks ago at my favorite bookstore Keplers. I couldn’t wait to share it here and it’s the perfect timing for it.

 It’s back-to-school time and for so many kids and parents it’s back to stress, strain and pressure that accompanies life in the overachieving Bay Area and many other parts of the country. Do you want to raise kids that will get into Stanford or kids that are happy? Most of us would say happy, but are we walking the walk? With a college entrance system that is horribly broken, high schoolers jumping in front of trains, and parents who spend their days cultivating perfect people, we need to all take a step back. Thankfully some reason and common sense has entered the fray in the form of this brilliant book:

Written by the former dean of freshman at Stanford, How to Raise An Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, is the book we need now. During her time at Stanford,  Julie Lythcott-Haims observed each successive freshman class coming in more dependent on parents and unable to cope without without consulting them, often many times daily thanks to a culture of overparenting. She says our job is not to get our kids into a prestigious school, but raise adults who can be self-reliant.

 I could have used this wisdom years ago. As the parent of an incoming senior I cannot tell you how much I’ve worried, fretted and finally had to jump off the crazy train that accompanies high school college prep. It’s hard to see the forest for the trees sometimes though in communities like ours.  Parents can quickly feel they need to do what everyone else is doing or their kid may get left behind and it’ll be all our fault for not doing ,’enough.’ This book says forget that.

Filling children’s days with sports, then select team sports, lessons, and tutoring in a ‘checklisted childhood,’ as she so rightly calls it, is doing children and ourselves no good and only raising kids with anxiety and unhappiness.  Lythcott-Haims calls this the raising of ‘bonsai trees vs. wildflowers.’ This cultivation of children sends the message that only grades and achievement matter and free time needs to be filled with mastering things. It’s creating young adults who are unable to think for themselves, know themselves and find happiness or success later in life.

Lythcott-Haims says what they need is real life. Kids need some adversity. They need freedom and free-ranging. They need time to daydream. They need failure and they need struggle. Taking this all away and smoothing the path leads to kids who can’t cope with life’s curve balls.

 It’s scary navigating the messed up college entrance system and this book has much enlightening and good thought here as well. It’s especially helpful to get high schoolers thinking about the OTHER wonderful school out there, and not aiming for the name brand ones, rather the right one for them.

Parents need to realize the path to a happy life is not perfect grades, an elite college and landing a prestigious job. The most satisfied people may be those who get there via a more crooked path, and are able to enjoy and learn from the journey. This book will help you keep your sanity and your perspective in an age of competitive parenting.

  Thanks Julia Lythcott-Haims for this message and inspiring book.  Let’s keep this mind-set going. Please share this book with others!

Kim

Photos of crooked path and wildflower in Big Sur- NorthernCalStyle

Filed Under: Books, How To Raise and Adult: Break Free of the Overprinting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

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I don’t know where I saved this from, possibly P I don’t know where I saved this from, possibly Pinterest, but I’ve had it forever.  I need to remind myself this quite often! 

Our mindset is everything and I was inadvertently raised to worry about things. My mom was one of 8 kids and her mother warned them about the dangers of everything to keep them all alive in her mind.  I think that was seeped in my dear mom’s bones and passed onto us.. by no fault of hers. 

My brain defaults to that and I have worked hard to stop that sort of internal monologue. 

Remember worrying never kept anyone safer. We don’t care more about someone by being a worrier. We just need to expect good things will happen. 

Being a person who is always worrying is not good for those around you either. It hurts your family and their own feelings of security. The more I realize this, the more I feel impelled to reassure, not stress and trust all will work out… and might even be fantastic!

Hope you all have a Happy Friday - and trust things will work out! 

I’ll be back tomorrow with the weekend post! 

#dontworrybehappy #qoutesoftheday #imspirationalquotes
If you missed the weekend posts with Juliet and El If you missed the weekend posts with Juliet and Elizabeth, I shared this pretty Newport Beach Home by the talented @caseyhillstudio in @fredericmagazine photos @lauraresenphotography 💕 

The Chanel slingback is also the ‘it’ shoe of the season and so versatile.. I share the original, resale options, and some very chic copies..at a lower price point.. My favorite Vuori jacket is also back and in new colors.. and lastly the fab J.Crew at 40 book I am coveting.

This is my second go at posting a Reel on the weekend meander.. The first was taken down, for unknown reasons?  So let’s hope this works!

Pop on by our blogs for all the fun and more good ideas!
Links in our bios..
@northerncalstyle 
@makemineaspritzer 
@pineconesandacorns 

Have a great week friends. 😘

#californiahomestyle #californiastyle #jcrew40 #vuori #chanelslingback #caseyhill #fredericmagazine
Had a great cappuccino and avocado toast at the mo Had a great cappuccino and avocado toast at the most charming spot @bluestonelane in Los Altos with my dear friend April. So good to catch up with her. 💕 

I think this is one of the nicest spots to meet a friend! Make a plan to catch up with a friend this fall. 

#bluestonelane #losaltos #bayareaeats  #bayareacharm
I have this quote in my closet! It is smart to re I have this quote in my closet!  It is smart to remember we may already have what we think we need to look great.

Right now the season is changing and I - like everybody else, am super excited for fall clothes, adding new things to my closet, and refreshing my look. 

Hold off though. Before we buy anything or get ‘influenced’ from people like myself, we have to first look at what we have. 

I am constantly reminded that the best dressed people have less clothes and wear great pieces on repeat! 

Get in your closet and you may see you already have that perfect fall sweater or the ballet flat that’s everywhere!! The truth is your pieces may be cooler than the new offerings that are out there- and no one else will have them. 

Make this a goal to go to your closet before you buy for fall and I promise you’ll shop smarter  and get what you really love and need.

Have a beautiful Friday!! Here’s to sweater days soon. 🍂

#fridayinspiration #fallshopping #closetinspo #quotestoliveby
I haven’t posted many house photos lately. I jus I haven’t posted many house photos lately. I just realized yesterday how very much I’m enjoying being at home especially now windows wide-open and the beautiful weather. We couldn’t be more lucky here in California when the weather is as it is now. 🧡

My tomatoes finally turned red and my new fig plant that I added to the front yard in spring already has figs on it!  Marlo is enjoying the sunshine and fresh air too. She’s nearly 18 years old. 

Nothing better than this late summer early fall…Still the goodies of summer and the promise of fun things in fall without all the heat.

If you didn’t read my weekend post there’s a  wonderful inspiring story I shared about getting together with your neighbors and creating small micro neighborhoods…. and how the French love this time of year for socializing again too.. Lots to look forward to! 

Have a beautiful day.

#california #californialiving #northerncalstyle  #serenaandlily #latesummer #earlyfall #catlife #acalifornialife
It’s that fun time when I get to talk style with It’s that fun time when I get to talk style with the fabulous Cindy and since it’s September, we are sharing our Fall Wish Lists!  Are you ready for the change of season?? I can’t wait!

I had so much fun pulling this together. I sort of had to edit myself because there’s many cool new things out there, but we just have to find the right pieces that will make what we already have work and look updated and chic.. We have to be editors! I am just giving you some ideas. 

The best part about fashion right now is there really are no rules and we just had to find what works for us and our lifestyle and our bodies! 

Pop on by the blog, and I’ll share some of the trends like longer fuller pants, suit looks, those darling Chanel style jackets, and other pretty pieces. 

Cindy as always has some beautiful ways to mix it all and create your own look.

Link in our bios as always!! 
@northerncalstyle 
@cindyhattersley 

All the links are on the post, but comment if you are missing something you see here! 

#fallfashiontrends #falllooks #fallfashioninspo
Hello happy weekend! It’s that time for Meanderi Hello happy weekend! It’s that time for Meanderings post with Juliet and Elizabeth!  This week I am sharing this cute bar basket from @hudsongracesf my friends bought for me, and fall items that I am excited to add to my closet.

I am also chatting about the new movement to connect with your neighborhood and create smaller communities -and ideas on how to do it! 

Fall is a perfect time for this and in France it’s called la rentrée and it means the start of a new exciting season of getting back together with others after summer. 

More on the blog- along with my favorite fall soup I’ve made forever from @marthastewart . 

Stop on by our blogs- links as always, in our bios or stories:
@northerncalstyle 
@makemineaspritzer 
@pineconesandacorns

#fallstyle #fallvibes #fallsoup #larentrée #microneighborhoods #onlyconnect #trench 

P.S… This is my first time adding music to a static post.. Is this fun or annoying??
My motivation for Friday! I love @therealdvf and s My motivation for Friday! I love @therealdvf and she is still out there working and inspiring women. 

This quote! Only we can make ourselves truly happy and as women we so often taught to look outside of ourselves for that and that’s never a good thing. We have to learn to ask for what we want without apologizing and go for it ourselves.🩷

Happy Friday friends!

#inspiringquotes #quoteoftheday #dvf
What do you do when it’s rainy and cool in Tahoe What do you do when it’s rainy and cool in Tahoe? Well someone asked me today and  actually there is a lot to do and it’s one of the best times to go! 

Last weekend it was a cool 48 degrees and it felt like November even though it was Labor Day weekend. We enjoyed some sun and breezes so being layers!

You can pack a lot in the two days with great hikes and walks..and food!  Two good hikes- one at Ward Creek, another at Sugar Pine Point.. are perfect for now! Have some lunch by the river @riverranchlodge, take a walk on the lake and a drive on 89, end it by playing games and have a cozy dinner in with pot pies from Tahoe House bakery. ( SO good!) 

Tahoe when it’s shoulder season is the best kept secret. Though normally Labor Day would be hot here. Make some plans to enjoy the fall here! 🍂

Here’s to an early fall! I added a few autumn touches to our tiny cabin while I was there..

Yes I snapped that 🐻 bear! He was crossing the road. This is their season to bulk up so you leave no food in your cars..

#tahoe #westshoretahoe #sugarpinepointstatepark #wardcreektrail #shoulderseasontravel #ourgoldenstate #californiatravel
Hope you’re all having a good holiday weekend! I Hope you’re all having a good holiday weekend! If you have down time the Weekend Meanderings is up with my pals Juliet and Elizabeth with some fun ideas for you. 

On my weekend post-
Cute fall decor
Pretty towels on sale 
An autumn my dress and sweatshirt
The US Open’s tribute to Billie Jean King
Michelle Obama’s US Open look and her talented stylist! 

Stop on by our blogs- links as always, in our bios or stories:
@northerncalstyle 
@makemineaspritzer 
@pineconesandacorns 

#falldecorating #septemberdecor #bathtowels #serenaandlily #rails #evereve #michelleobamastyle #meredithkoop #usopentennis #billiejeanking
I can’t let this date go by without a tribute to I can’t let this date go by without a tribute to Princess Diana, my original style idol.  I recently found this book my dear mother bought me way back in the 80’s. Tucked inside was this torn page from American @vogue about this new girl’s style….Oh if they only knew what this young woman would be to the world. …

She was so much more than what she wore. She was a real life princess in her heart as well as title- touching so many lives. Who didn’t she care about or show kindness towards? She had it in her heart and that radiated in her face. 

These are a few photos that are my favorites and a few that show her fun personality that always shines through.. 🩷 Of course everything she wore is back in style again like this vest - the caps, the blazers, and floral prints. 

This day makes me hugely sad. 
If it wasn’t for the nasty British press ( who are still horrific), and paparazzi she would be here. 

#dianaspencer #princessdiana #ladydi
The weekend post with Juliet and Elizabeth is up. The weekend post with Juliet and Elizabeth is up. I have my 40th reunion this weekend so I’ve got what to wear to a reunion, an excellent book on rethinking how we age by the chic @annagmurphy , and  the story of how San Francisco’s Nordstrom changed the city and its unlikely success story. 

It’s all on the blog! 

Stop on by our blogs- links as always, in our bios or stories:
@northerncalstyle 
@makemineaspritzer 
@pineconesandacorns 

#whattowear  #highschoolreunion #highschoolreunionlook 
#bayarea  #northerncalstyle #californiastyle #agingbackwards #destinationfabulous

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