Happy Valentine’s Day lovelies!. I hope whatever this day brings, you are treated special, or do something nice for yourself. After many years of waiting to be surprised by the Valentine’s Day of my dreams, like most women, I am now at the age now where I feel happier when I buy my own flowers when I want, and tell my husband what I would like to go to dinner and yes even sometimes the gifts I am hoping for. It also makes for a lot more harmony and less disappointment for both of us!
As Max just got back from an epic business trip to India, my expectations are low and we will get Valentine pizza tonight, but later next week we will do dinner someplace I love- and if I don’t get any flowers I will likely buy myself some of my favorite kind the next time I am out. Michelle Yeoh, star and the beautiful mother in Crazy Rich Asians recently said, ‘If I want flowers or jewelry I buy it for myself.’ Love that! We women work so hard to make everyone’s life terrific, yet we need to send more love our own way. We need to say no to more. We need to say what we really want and to not judge ourselves so harshly. Valentines is a nice opportunity to be kinder and treat yourself a little. Whether it is a binge watching your favorite show in bed alone, having a spa appointment, planning a day to take yourself shopping for something new and special, or even just buying yourself lunch out somewhere with a friend, do it. A wise gal once told me, we teach others how to treat us. I try to keep that mantra in mind always. We have to start putting ourselves first more often, so others will too. We are the work horses of the damn world and the planet would be nowhere without us, but we perpetuate that subservient slot in life when we keep doing for others what they should be doing for themselves. Women are the healers, nurtures and lovers of the world, but we are only beginning to love ourselves as much as we deserve. Wishing you all a little indulgence today and to cherish yourself.
In the Valentine spirit, a few pink things that have been on my wish list and some are wishful thinking…
Happy Valentines !
Kim
